Some parents may only request that the husband-to-be visits a family member each from their families and they are satisfied, but for some others it is a different matter.
Many people have also seen differently; some say that you cannot for example, be introducing the groom to uncles and aunties on the day of the wedding. It is expected that everyone who is considered a close family member ought to have met the groom before the traditional marriage day.
But then, the issue of consideration arises. How do you rationalise a request for the husband-to-be to go visiting an uncle or aunt in Uyo or Warri from Lagos, when the parents of the lady are in Lagos? While some people say it is in line with tradition, others think that the distance is too far such visit when all resources to be spent are considered.
Unfortunately, their trip back to Warri turned sour when the vehicle they were travelling in got involved in an accident, causing both of them to remain in hospital for over three months.
The mother insisted that the said sister-in-law did not have regards for her, so she did not see any reason why she would accord her the honour of an earlier visit before the traditional marriage and wedding.
Many families now consider distance and resources to be spent on such trips. However, some others are of the opinion that if the tradition is allowed to die some of the practises that beautify and dignify our culture would completely be lost.