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media are responsible for bringing up your children.”
This was how a guest
speaker at a child development forum tasked parents to check their ‘scorecard’
on the kind of values that they allow their children have access to.
on ground in the lives of families and the corresponding effect of parenting
patterns on society. Even if some parents choose to live in deceit and denial,
the truth remains that ‘you cannot eat your cake and have it.’
demands your time and bond with them. It is understandable that financial
demands push parents out to the fields, but such efforts become futile if the
children for who you claim to be doing it turn out to be a pain because they
couldn’t get proper upbringing.
children in ‘70s and 80s, it was clear that one of both parents took up jobs
that ensured they were home same time that the children got back from school.
took up jobs that allowed them to have time for their children. During those
periods, children enjoyed food cooked with love by their mothers for them, not
just something to manage from the housemaids as is experienced today.
of their mothers who also helped them with home-works from school. At that
time, television programmes followed strictly, time- belts for children and
adult programmes. Children were entertained and educated progressively
according to their ages.
child he was. But today, the issue of family identity is lost. In very many
cases where both parents work late outside the home the children are left in
the care of the housemaid who has no idea of what it takes to bring up a child.
For many children, they have learned everything (good
and bad) from the media. A maid’s
responsibility is to do domestic chores and not to bring up a child, so no one
teaches the child or censors what the child has access to in the media.
look through their children’s academic work. They erroneously believe that
since the teacher has been paid to teach the child, the teacher should play
both the role of a teacher and that of a parent to the child. It is totally wrong. A parent is first responsible to his/her
child before the teacher takes up the responsibility to teach the child.
in as much effort in teaching a child as a parent demands, through dedication
to seeing how the child fares in his academic work.
a parent creates a relationship that will talk to the parent about challenges
of either peer pressure or threats and dangerous advances from a sexual
molester. It is only when a child has access to quality and benefiting
information that he can make the right choices about every situation that comes
parental guidance, children can make healthy choices of media and contents they
can be exposed. And it is only parents who make their physical presence
available for their children that can help the children.
was that, ‘society is only a reflection of how children are being raised by