People dream big of the ‘perfect’ person they want to get married to. Even when during courtship they see some shortcomings in the person, they carry on with the hope of ‘changing’ the person to adopting the ideal attitude to things when they get married.
Funny enough, some people begin to get frustrated all too soon when they don’t see the desired change in their spouses.
This brings on the issue of what people do during the courtship period. It is assumed that courtship period should be a time for partners to understand each other. At this time, people have the opportunity to decide on what they want to live with, as they observe attitudes of their spouses.
Being bought up in different families and environments means people would have different values attached to different things. If during courtship a person observes that his/her spouse cares less about tidying up their rooms or worry less about putting things were they should belong, then it becomes difficult to assume that such a person would be compelled to change from that pattern during marriage.
The reality on ground is that interaction with people shows ‘old habits die hard’. If during courtship a lady loves eating out always and her spouse does not think there is a problem with it then, he should be prepared to always eat out when they are married.
The same applies to a man who loves to watch football matches with his friends. A contrary expectation may put both spouses against each other. Simply put, “what you experience during courtship is what you live with in marital life.”