Memorable Moments with Some Family Friends

Baby Rhuno with Kome  and Evi
Prayer time

The holidays have been worth every while with family friends visiting.  The children have been having real fun in company of the little ones.

Gone But Not Forgotten; Mrs Victoria Ozonitsha Orivri

                  Grandma  Ozonitsha Orivri
It is nine years gone (precisely December 23, 2003), but our loving mother, grandmother, mother-in-law is still being missed as though she left this world yesterday.

In The Spirit Of The Season

Oops! Christmas  is just some hours away. Thank God for the precious gift of life!  

My Grandmother Wants To Come Back Home by Oyindamola Thomas

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It’s been two years now since my mum took my grandmother to the old people’s home in Yaba, Lagos. Before that movement, grandma lived with us in Surulere for about five years and she was 84years. 

Don’t Do Any of These To Your Children This Christmas

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Christmas celebrations has actually started for a lot of people,  and the children are very expectant of what they’ll get for the celebrations. Mothers too are planning how to manage their resources so that the family is well provided for. 

Issues with the mandatory family visits before the marriage Ceremonies

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As a part of culture and tradition, many Nigerian tribes require that an intending groom pays familiarization visits to important members of the bride-to-be’s family.  

Simeon Olaghere Foundation awards scholarship to students of Mass Communication

Four undergraduate students of mass communication, who major in advertising in the University of Lagos, and the School of Communication, Lagos State University, have emerged as beneficiaries of this year’s Simeon Erimiakhena Olaghere Memorial Foundation Scholarship award.

Akoi-Jackson on the similarity of the art space in Nigeria and his home country Ghana

Akoi-Jackson in CCA
The artist Bernard Akoi-Jackson paints; sculpts and does live performances. His passion for the art is definitely unquantifiable.  With a master’s degree in Art from the Kwame Nkruma Univeristy of Science and Technology, Ghana, Akoi-Jackson teaches art in a school and still engages actively in creative works.

Some of My Visits to Art Galleries in Lagos

Some photos at Nike Gallery; CCA; and  the National Museum, Lagos

One art gallery I visited the most was Nike Gallery. The art gallery was always busy with activities going on there, and I must say I enjoyed the visits because Mrs Nike Davies Okundaye is such a wonderful woman who wants to always have people around her. She has been known for her role in empowering women by teaching them the art of 'adire' (traditional tie and dye cloth) making.

Sustaining Art Development In Nigeria Through The Ben Enwonwu Distinguished Lecture Series

Picture Source: Omenka Gallery
This year’s distinguished lecture series in honour  and memory of art icon,  Ben Enwonwu was  delivered by renowned printmaker, painter and sculptor  Bruce Onobrakpeya ,with the theme : ‘Informal Art Education through Workshops: Gains and Challenges as lessons  from the Harmattan  Workshop Series’. 

Creative Arts: How Keziah Jones, Segun Adefila, others sweetened the season's taste

Keziah on stage

The internationally acclaimed singer, songwriter, guitarist and king of  Blufunk- Keziah Jones, performed a solo concert on the night of the opening event. 

Rare enough, this very special event was topped by a live painting action by Nigerian artist, Native Maqari who combines the traditions of mural-painting with comic and street art styles.

Is 'Omugwo' a violation of men’s rights to being with their wives?

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 Omugwo is an Igbo word for care- giving to a woman who has just put to bed a baby.

I did the piece on issues with Omugwo after some discussions about negative attitudes from either a mother or a mother-in-law, when they go to give care to a new mother. When another opportunity to talk about Omugwo arose, it turned out not to be business as usual. This time around, a man was protesting that men are usually left unattended to each time their wives went to do Omugwo, either for their sons or daughters.

See how three men expressed their opinions about the issue as it affects men.

Dennis said: “My dad did not find my mother’s Omugwo runs easy at all. It became bad that after an initial six weeks of being with my oldest sister in Benin doing Omugwo, she barely stayed for another one week when the call for another Omugwo came from my brother. My dad initially said no, but had to allow her after my brother insisted and even accused my mother of being biased against his wife. He felt that since my mother did it for my sister, she should also be there for him. So off my mother went to Asaba. The two weeks she was away was like two years. My dad complained of not being given food at the right time and many other excuses. My younger brother and I did our best to help out but he wanted his wife back. On her return, my father just sat his wife down and read the riot act to her, “Henceforth, no Omugwo beyond one week for you, because I also have to be cared for. Let your children know that you have a husband who needs your care and warmth first before any other thing.” Now that I have my own family, I also stopped once and pondered how life would be if my own wife decides to leave me at home and go for one Omugwo for so long.”

Ejiofor: “I would not mind my wife going for Omugwo if it’s the first time. It will only be wise that the mother teaches her daughter or her daughter-in-law what to do and how to bring in a balance into it. A situation where the woman is going for Omugwo the second or third time and staying so long as if the new mother does not know what to do is the aspect I don’t like. The women actually take the opportunity of being away, not minding how their husbands fair during these periods.  Consider it, it is not fair for women to just stay away from their husbands for so long, with the excuse of nursing a new mother.”

Felix: “Osofia saw the danger of jumping off to go for Omugwo. Well, his adventure proved how hard the mothers work to care for a new mother. But I think they should always remember that their own husbands are back at home too. The difficult ones are those who go abroad for Omugwo. In fact they should be given a time frame so that they don’t go and think they have the license to stay for as long as one year. If care is not taken, some of the women even want to be there to nurse like two children before they remember home. How do they want the men to cope for that long period alone? As for me, my father is aging and needs his wife’s care and support so, Omugwo for anybody at that must not extend a week and she knows so.”

What are your views on this?

A life-time Nightmare of Living Apart from My Spouse (True-life Story)

A reader, who prefers to remain anonymous, wrote in to share her bitter experience of not living with her husband when he secured a better paying job in Abuja.

Haliamburi is 2012 Next Movie Star!

The Next Movie Star 2012 (SEASON 8) has finally come to an end and the winner is Miss Halimat Aitsegame, a.k.a Haliamburi.

MTN Afrinolly enlists Femi Odugbemi and Bongiwe Selane to Impact Budding Filmmakers

Femi Odugbemi

MTN Afrinolly, the premier Nigerian mobile application focused on promoting African entertainment; movies, music and celebrities, brought renowned film and TV content producers, Femi Odugbemi and Bongiwe Selani, to share their knowledge and experiences with filmmakers in the second edition of its Afrinolly MasterClass that held on Saturday December 8, 2012, via Google+ Hangout.

CCA is 5, Rounds Off 'The Progress of Love' With Discourse

L-R; Berdard  Akoi-Jackson; Bisi Siva; Jelili Atiku; Wuraola Ogunji, and Valerie Oka


Hearty congratulations to the Centre for Contemporary Art (CCA), which marks five years of engaging services on the art sphere today.  Managed by Bisi Silva, CCA has proven the worth of its vision to hold a large and diverse collection of books in its Library, thereby encouraging readership for information and education on all about art, artists and great works.

 Elated by this achievement, Silva says,” Our first great achievement which remains remarkable, is that we have been able to grow our library of books from 500 to over 5000 books. This means that even in the absence of anything, we still have a reference point where people can visit and get information about all that have ever happened or created by others.”
                                       With Bernard Akoi-Jackson(left) and Richardson Ovbiegho 

If there be a score card on performance during these five years, then the volume of interactions that have taken place in CCA in forms of exhibitions, live performances, workshops and residencies would place this heart of art on a most enviable position. Silva is glad that they have continued to work in line with the vision, and excited by how the new media have boosted the efforts of the centre to promoting and sustaining art in Nigeria.

Rounding off on the exhibition themed The Progress of Love, which spanned over four weeks with performances and exhibition of works by different artists, a panel discussion held yesterday  with Bisi Silva, Bernard Akoi-Jackson( from Ghana), Wuraola- Natasha Ogunji, Valerie Oka (Ivory Coast) and Jelili Atiku in session.  The discourse raised issues of basically appreciation of performance art pushing the frontiers of art as No-holds-barred.   
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A grandmother’s Wish List for Christmas

A neighbour who also happens to be a friend, brought a Christmas-wish note to me yesterday evening. She could not stop laughing as she read the content of the note to me.

What is the ‘thief’ of your time?

Chugbo is 14years and a senior secondary student in one of the private schools in Lagos. Week days after school, he spends an average of between four to five hours watching ‘interesting’ programmes on television.

The Trouble With Weekend Wives and Weekend Husbands

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At exactly 3.50pm, Onoseh starting clearing up her table. She did everything simultaneously; shutting down her computer, arranging her files back on the shelf, putting away her water flask and handing over her office key to Antonia who shared a space in the office with her.

Onitsha culture is alive in ‘Ambivalence’

 His Majesty Nnaemeka Achebe, Obi of Onitsha,appreciating a work on display with the artist, Emmah Mbanefo

A large part of the rich cultural heritage of the Onitsha people of South Eastern Nigeria is  embedded in their art and craft. They have good authority in sculpting and sophisticated traditional    paintings. For them, it is a way of life through which they continue to document their history.

Would your native language go extinct with this generation?

Art work  titled 'Teach Them' by  Olawunmi Banjo

Do you speak your native language at home always, sometimes or not at all? There is a growing concern that some languages might go extinct after this present generation. This fear comes from the fact that many families rather communicate among themselves in English Language than do in their mother tongue.

The issue actually surfaced in my home when I asked my son to get me an item in my native language. First, he was amused by the sound of the word and asked what I was talking about.  I felt beaten that my own language sounded strange to my own child. But then, I knew that the boy was not to be blamed because I only speak to them in my native language sometimes.

In the course of the week, I have taken on the responsibility of consciously talking to everyone in my home in my native language. The children seem to like it but it has been very challenging because I have had to explain almost everything I say in English to them.  And I was worried again if we are actually going to make some progress.

While people ordinarily assume that children tend to learn the local language of  their immediate  environment, it seem to me that it just may not follow that way. I have seen families of Yoruba descent  who live in Lagos, yet  are faced with the problem of their children not speaking their native language.  Even when the parents talk to them in Yoruba Language, they reply in English Language.

A family friend, who is Igbo by tribe, has also complained about her children not understanding every word of her native Igbo Language. She explains that her problem is with her husband who though is Igbo by origin, but was born and raised in Campus Square area of Lagos Island. She laments that her husband grew up speaking Yoruba and still prefers communicating in the language, so she is the only one making an effort to help the children learn Igbo Language.

My Most Memorable Book... 'Eze goes to school’

        'Eze goes to school’  by Onuora Nzekwu and Michael Crowder 

Segun Adefila has proven that he is on top of his act. With a degree in Theatre Arts from the University of Lagos, Adefila has introduced freshness into stage acts in Nigeria with his theatre group, ‘Crown Troupe’.

Showcasing Nigeria’s Rich Cultural Heritage through ‘Rare and Large’ Collection

Chief John Edokpolo showing a painting  to some of the guests

Ekasa, a cultural heritage of the Benin people

Massive and outstanding describe the works in the collection at the second edition of the Ambassadors’ Nite exhibition holding in the National Museum, Lagos, between December 2 and December 9, 2012.

An Art Patron’s Life’s Lessons for Success

Chief Edokpolo sharing his  message with the audience during the art  exhibition

I spent my Sunday evening in a very entertaining way for the first time after so much running around during weekends. It was an exhibition event that took place in the Lagos Museum, Onikan.