At the family meeting holding in Susan’s parents’ house, the elders had already given up on the issue of the day. But if every other person was tired, Susan’s father was not. He insisted on getting everything on the request-list met.
As long as he was concerned, if Susan has stayed unmarried all these years, then she must not be given out ‘cheaply’ in marriage. He remains the father of the bride and must enjoy full benefits for his God-given-position.
Susan is 39 years old and single. Besides her bag of degrees and varied trainings, she has good looks and puts up a likable mien among her friends. She hadn’t complained about being single; she may have been choosy, waiting for a man of her choice, but that was entirely her business.
For Susan’s father, the intending groom must buy him a Power- bike; one that he had always dreamed of, build a family-size house for him to upgrade his status from a tenant to a house-owner. He said he hadn’t asked for too much, because he already had the piece of land!
While the family meeting continued, Susan’s father said that having been prevailed upon by members of his family, he didn’t mind waving ‘the rest things’ on the list, but the first two items must be provided or else he was not going to give Susan out for marriage.
Again, he thought that since his family wanted him to let go of the building request, then they should also yank off some of their own items meant for members of the family. He concluded that the family was somewhat more ‘greedy’ than himself,
because he was the first and ‘original owner’ of the ‘commodity! Oops, ‘daughter’.
Susan’s case is just one out of so many. It is disturbing that some parents would want to exchange their daughters like a common commodity for material wealth.
There is no doubt that an intending groom should honour the parents and family of his proposed bride, but it becomes embarrassingly sad when outrageous price-tags are placed on the lady.
How would you rather handle this issue of ‘family-demand- list’, as a bride or groom to- be?